As people, we each have certain fears and challenges that we have to overcome if we’re to be aligned with our true selves. You may be within the middle of a challenging process right now as you read this blog. Hopefully, by the time you’ve finished reading, it will have inspired you enough to at least take one step outside of your familiar patterns and embrace the unknown.
Here we go…
Life begins where your comfort zone ends. I know this saying is a bit of a cliche, but it couldn’t be truer. Scientists, in recent years, have discovered that staying in our comfort zone eventually breaks down the body. The more attached we are to our fear-based patterns of thinking and feeling, then the more prone and susceptible we are to disease. Our comfort zone slowly kills us without us even realizing!
Epigenetics, thanks to the work of the Bruce H. Lipton PhD, ( a scientist very under-appreciated for the contribution he has made to society) discovered that our genes are fundamentally controlled by our perception of life. Thus, when we change our perception, our genes begin to function in different ways. What do genes do? They create proteins, and what do proteins do? They oversee the structure and function of our body.
When a person suffers from anxiety, for example, their anxious state signals their genes to create proteins which are equal to anxiety. The result is that the proteins won’t be of good quality as fear-based emotions never create healthy proteins as the immune system is compromised when the body is under stress in the survival gene.
The moment a person wakes up in the morning and opens their eyes, a negative thought jumps on their back and they believe it, which then triggers fear in the body which they resist and try to push away, which then creates other thoughts equal to that resistance. The cycle goes on and on; before they know it, they’ve spent the majority of their day in a fear-based state. Such a lifestyle is detrimental to our overall health and wellbeing. The state itself will literally break the body down if they embody it on a consistent basis. It’s vitally important we become conscious of our patterns in order to transcend their habitual process.
Can you sit still with your eyes closed for just five minutes and watch your thoughts without attaching to any of them? Just like the clouds pass you by in the sky on a lovely summer’s day, so too, our thoughts are simply clouds in the sky of our being, our consciousness. The problem isn’t even the thoughts, because most of them are involuntary thus, automatic. The issue is that you believe in what the thoughts are telling you. Even though they most likely, have nothing to do with who you are in the here and now.
These automatic patterns are a reflection of your past experiences. The past is literally, colouring your perception of the present moment, thus your body unconsciously believes its reexperiencing the same traumas it has in the past when you succumb to them. Neuroscience has proven that most people have 90% of the same thoughts in a day that they had the day before. Becoming conscious of your inner world is the key to transcendence.
You don’t feel any form of fear without believing something to be true about yourself. Meditate on what I have just written for a moment. You wouldn’t feel scared if you didn’t believe, on some level, that you were in danger. Fear, anxiety is an indicator that you’re believing something dreadful is about to happen to you when in reality, it’s happening between your ears…
Many spiritual teachers instruct that one should be fully present with their fear-based emotions and accept them when they arise in the body and I completely agree. We must be fully present with whatever life gives us as nothing goes away until it’s taught us what it needs to teach us about ourselves and life as a whole.
When fear arises in your body. If you can, just stop whatever you’re doing for a moment. Close your eyes. Take a couple of slow, deep breaths to centre yourself in the here and now. Fully accept what is. Allow the uncomfortable feelings to be there, as you’re meant to be feeling this way right now. All is well…
What most teachers don’t explain, however, is that we should also question these feelings after we’ve fully accepted them. I am not saying analyze them with the thinking mind. Be fully present and in a curious state when you question the emotion. Ask yourself questions along the line of as you go into the emotion with acceptance: “What do I believe is going to happen to me? What do I believe is wrong with me?”
As you grew up, you were most likely conditioned by your parents, school teachers and friends in a fear-based way, and most of this conditioning occurred in the first seven years of your life. The brain of a baby is in a different state than adults. Theta brainwaves are hypnotic; children are conditioned simply by observing their immediate environment.
As a result of such conditioning, people generally have a tonne of fear-based beliefs which are hijacking their windows of perception. Why do I say hijacking? Because they aren’t conscious of them. People are generally unaware of most of the things they believe to be true about themselves and life as a whole. Hence why they are often hit by random waves of fear-based emotions and have no clue as to why their body is automatically activating the survival gene; it’s because they aren’t aware of their unconscious beliefs!
“Until you make the unconscious, conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” ─Carl Jung
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Fear-based belief systems form the basis of all negative mental and emotional patterns people experience. Some people correlate negative emotions to emotional memories in the body, but that is what belief systems ultimately are because we only believe those ways as a result of the experiences which first triggered the emotion in the first place!
In my own life, I have been shown why it’s important to become aware of our unconscious beliefs. I was born twenty-seven days premature and I know that being born so early can trigger complications in some of the babies organs as they grow up. Eight weeks later, I was rushed into hospital as my mother noticed that I was really pale and hardly breathing. The doctors quickly scanned me to see that I had inflammation on my aorta, which is the biggest artery in the body (I think, correct me if I am wrong).
I was given life-saving surgery in which the doctors repaired the valve and I have been healthy ever since, thanks to the grace of God, and of course, my mother who’s intuition saved my life. Every three years I visit the hospital and get an MRI scan just to make sure that everything is still in working order. Thirty-two years later, so far, so good, I am in the best shape of my life!
Yet, over the last few years, I found myself being scared to exercise as I become conscious of many fear-based emotional patterns I had wrapped around the traumatic experience I was when I was a baby. I grew up with my mother drilling the notion that I had a heart condition in my head (even though it wasn’t even my heart they repaired). So, whenever my heart beat fast after exercise, my body would automatically go into panic mode. This became somewhat of a comfort zone for me. I was scared to walk up steep hills, go running or even climb stairs at one point! Anything that could trigger my heart rate to go up, I tried to avoid because I somehow believed they would give me a heart attack, when in fact, it’s quite the opposite…
This comfort zone would have killed me if I stayed in it because exercise is actually good for the heart. I read that just thirty minutes of walking, five times a week can actually lower your chances of a stroke or heart attack by thirty percent. Our heart is a muscle and it wants to pump, not out of fear, but due to exercising in joy. Staying active is key to a healthy life.
My comfort zone was that I believed if I avoided exercise that I would be safe. Yet, avoiding exercising broke my body down. I become weak. My muscles were sore all the time. I laid in bed a lot of the time, doing nothing. I was under the regime of this negative belief and had no idea. Imagine if I would have stayed in that pattern for another ten years? I would probably have kicked the bucket by the time I was 40!
If I wouldn’t have questioned my fear-based emotions then I wouldn’t have become aware of this deadly, yet illogical pattern I was being unconsciously controlled by. Avoiding the normal, everyday things of life is never the way forward. Push through the fear and just do them anyway, because every time you avoid something out of fear then you reinforce those fears within yourself even more.
For years, I would suffer from anxiety, and uncomfortable feelings in the body. Heart palpitations, dizziness, vomiting, you name it, I had it. And truth be told I am still on the healing path as I believe healing and the expansion of consciousness never ends. Ultimately, it was the belief that I had a bad heart which needed to be dropped in order for me to start perceiving life differently.
In Japanese culture, Kintsugi (金継ぎ, “golden joinery”), also known as Kintsukuroi (金繕い, “golden repair”), is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum, a method similar to the maki-e technique.
To me, my heart is even more beautiful now because it was once broken. It has been filled with the radiant gold of God’s love. I am truly blessed and thankful to be here, writing this blog for you! I also believe that is why it happened to me. There are no accidents in life. I went through all that trauma to be able to speak from my own experience for you. I truly believe that if I never heart surgery that I probably wouldn’t have written my book, The Labyrinth.
Your comfort zone will ultimately kill you if you don’t step into the unknown and out of your familiar thinking and feeling patterns. Dr Joe Dispenza, once said that just by feeling gratitude for ten minutes we release over 1200 chemicals in the body which begin to heal and repair it!
Know thyself! Question your comfort zone, with awareness. Question those emotional and mental patterns which keep you locked in the same uncomfortable state, day in day out. Just as I discovered how illogical it was to avoid exercising, you’ll discover a host of illogical beliefs which convince you to avoid things you really shouldn’t be!
The moment you begin to embrace a new set of feelings (beliefs) by altering your perception, then you’ll begin to create better proteins which will, in turn, improve the overall structure and function of your body. Make appreciation your heartbeat. Yes, it’s going to be uncomfortable at first because your body is literally addicted to the same thoughts and feeling patterns. You have to be motivated enough to want to change. You don’t need to hit rock bottom or be diagnosed with some disease in order to force you to change your perception. Change yourself consciously.
I hope this blog helped shed some light for you on how detrimental our comfort zones are on our body. May you transcend the impressions of your past and fully embrace your present, without distortion.
God Bless You
─Craig Woods (Instagram: @reiiireiii86)
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